Moment With Betty

 Managing children as they grow is not an easy task more especially when they become teenagers or adolescence. The teenage years are a crucial stage of growth. This is a time when young people are discovering their identity, seeking independence, and often testing boundaries. Also, it a time when they become super -learners and we see development happening rapidly both physically and emotionally.  In fact, we marvel at their increasing ability to think things through and grasp the complexity of the world. As parents, guardians, or mentors, this period offers a golden opportunity to guide them towards becoming responsible, respectful, and morally upright adults. And, also support them to develop and clarify their own values while we guide them with the family core values

Understanding them is key. we need to try to understand teenagers, before devising best strategies with which to manage them bearing in mind that they are undergoing rapid physical, emotional, and social changes. During this stage of growth, they usually crave acceptance and always trying to assert their individuality and in so doing, they are often misunderstood. So, it is very important to understand these changing aspects, to be able to manage them effectively. Parents need to understand that children of this generation are smarter and more exposed to the happenings around world due to subsequent technological advancement and this has made teenage parenting a little difficult. However, by managing them with patience, love, wisdom and intentionally instilling good moral values, we help them lay a strong foundation for a successful and fulfilling life. Be that as it may, parents need to be mindful of what is happening around these teenagers and offer proper guidance. We need to take note of every changes we observe as this would help to map out strategies that will help manage our teens effectively.

For me, the most important of all is to be open and honest with them during communication. Say it the way it is, no mincing of words or sugar- coating because, you will be shocked to know that they are already aware of whatever you want to communicate. Nevertheless, set clear boundaries and also state your expectations. Define acceptable behaviours and explain why they matter. Be consistent with rules and regulations and consequences but, avoid being excessively harsh, try and balance firmness with kindness. Guide them to think about the consequences of their choices and also encourage them to question negative influences and make informed decisions. Above all, ensure their safety and assure the children that they are not in any danger. Set boundaries around issues of safety and morality as this allows the teens to make mistakes and learn how to make amends. Make sure you create a safe space for them to express their feelings without fear of judgment. Listen actively and patiently even when you disagree and discuss real-life situations and moral problems to help them think critically

Remember that teens and children in general, often learn from what parents and guidance do than what they say so, lets demonstrate honesty, kindness, respect and empathy in our daily lives. Be their role model.   Encourage them to establish positive friendships, try to know their friends and help them choose friends who have common values.  We should also encourage positive activities, support their involvement in the activities that build their character such as, volunteering, faith – based programs, sports, charity work or caring for family members. Assign age-appropriate responsibilities at home and hold them accountable for their actions. Encourage them to express thanks regularly and to recognize that every gift or opportunity is a privilege. Most importantly, show them unconditional love and support, let them know that they are valued and loved regardless of their mistakes. Celebrate their achievements and help them learn from their disappointments.

In conclusion, parenting teenagers is not always easy, but it is a rewarding journey. By managing them with patience, love, and wisdom, and by intentionally instilling good moral values, we help them lay a strong foundation for a successful and fulfilling life.